“If you think you can, you can! Believe it and it will happen! Live the life you love!”

We have all heard these positive, encouraging tidbits along the way. The go-getters and the dream catches share them on their Facebook walls and remind everyone that they have the power to control their lives. Most of us want to believe it. It sounds like a great concept. But some of us instead believe the same script that been running through our heads for as long as time. The scripts that read..

“Never gonna happen. Stop dreaming! That would never happen to you.”

It seems impossible to believe if we REALLY want something, we will get it.
We REALLY want lots of things, that are so far out of reach.
We’ve been thinking so badly about those things, those feelings, those moments. But, they never happen.
What we really need to do is stop dreaming!
If that resinates with you, please keep reading.

First off, no one is perfect. I share numerous positive affirmations and words of strength and courage on my wall. I’m a definite go getter and I most certainly live the life I love. However, I have bad days. I do! Days when I can’t seem to wrap my head around all that I have created and where it might lead me. I get scared. I hear an old crackling audio on repeat saying “Never gonna happen, why do you even try?” My bad days are lazy days. Im drawn to my children for comfort and usually end up eating something dirty like 2 Mars bars or a Big Mac.

When I have a bad day, I ignore the dream catcher inside me and allow the track to continue, getting louder and louder. Sometime it may take a couple days for me to fully tune out and get my groove back. This is not something I have always had the ability to to. In fact, there were times in my life where I expected the worse daily, things weren’t great and likely wouldn’t get any better. I had the odd day of inspiration, but it was usually squashed by bad news, an accident or anxiety. I lived full of regret. With self doubt and bucket loads of bad news. The faint sound of inspiration was almost not even there.

At that point in my life if someone told me that if I just thought good thing, good things would happen. I would have laughed or maybe cried. Now, I believe it, I live it and even on my bad days my voice of strength and courage is strained, but there. The change in my thought process has seriously changed my life. It wasn’t easy and it wasn’t until recently I really even begun to notice.

People close to me would probably agree that for a while now I’ve seemed pretty happy. Ive got a great partner, smart, handsome children and a few good friends. I started my own business and its going well. Things look good for me! Of course I’m happy now!

I have been slowly changing my script for a long time. I started paying attention to my interactions, my reactions and the old audio. At first I just put more effort into the positive thoughts. I worked hard on them and shared them with people who would encourage them. Once the new script was written it played regularly. Alongside the constant reminder I could never really love the life I live. Because even though I created a good positive voice – one that believed in me, encouraged and inspired me, I was still me. I was a dreamer with big plans and no pull.

Now a days I’m pulling. Hard! I have put that sweet, soft, encouraging voice first. I consciously recognize every demeaning, negative thought that enters my head and dispel it as quick as possible. I believe that I can achieve my goals. I am done repeating them over and over out loud to help them sink in. I am on to embedding them deep into my subconscious and embracing them with my heart. I will share every positive, peaceful word that resinates with me in hopes you will too.

A positive thought is only worth the time you put into it.

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The Doula Chef

I am a DONA trained birth doula and culinary veteran. I am the mother 2 young boys and love every minute of it. I am the oldest child of four, to an amazing, strong women. My mother taught me the importance of strong support networks and gentle care. Her struggles taught me to live life passionatly and do what I love. I have discovered a strong passion for assisting women to feel empowered and be informed during the birthing process. The birth of a child creates an entirely new dynamic for everyone involved. I believe birth, and the time surrounding it is sacred. I trust in the female body to birth children naturally, while always honouring a women’s right to make choices in childbirth. “The power is not in the plan itself, but the education you gain creating it.” In 2009, I completed the Culinary Management Program at Fanshawe College. I have over 15 years experience in the food industry, including in home catering and meal planning. Welcoming a new baby takes a lot of preparation. Birth preparation, labour support as well as, postpartum care of Mom and babe. My skills and passion lead me to becoming The Doula Chef. My goal is to provide a mother with the birth she wants, and families with food for healing. Leaving them more time to connect and readjust. My passion and experience aid me in nurturing women and nourishing families, helping everyone to savour the moment.

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